Below is a list of some of the red flags I've discovered. Some of these items might not be deal-breakers for you; if the issue is okay with you, then there is no problem. See if you can identify personally with any of these red flags. The person comes on strong at the beginning of the relationship, and tells you exactly what you want to hear. Narcissists can be very intense in their pursuit, and many of them have learned exactly what to say to pull you in, such as, "I've never felt as connected with anyone else as I feel with you," or "You are the most amazing person I've ever met.
I can see that no one has ever really seen you." For many narcissists, the pursuit is everything and once they have you hooked, they are either off to another pursuit, or they become more and more demanding of you. The person becomes angry, critical or withdrawn if you say no. Narcissists need constant attention and often become very upset and punishing if you don't give them what they want. The person becomes logical and tries to talk you out of your feelings or your experience.
Over the many years of working with thousands of people looking to find a committed relationship, I've discovered numerous red flags that may indicate future problems.
Very often, when the person I'm working with has moved ahead with the relationship, one of these issues -- which might not have seemed huge at the beginning -- becomes a major problem leading to the demise of the relationship. As you read this list, don't just focus on the other person.
While Venus, planet of love and guardian of your relationships is now just two weeks away from your communication sector, Mercury's first full day in Gemini is throwing you and your relationships a lifeline.
The planet of communication has arrived just in time to give the strong emotional responses fuelled by a Full Moon in your relationship sector a voice.
We all bring our unhealed wounds with us into our primary relationships, often projecting our parents or other caregivers onto our partner. Again, don't expect that you can get the person to change.
This is another narcissistic trait: the belief that only his or her feelings and opinions are valid, and that differences pose a threat. The person talks on and on about himself or herself and doesn't ask much about you, or is uninterested when you do talk about yourself. This person is not interested in you or your feelings.In 2010, Lusha wrote Boopity Boop Writers Her First Poem.