[they've] got to be upfront about what it is that they want and who they want it from."Others take issue with the concept of a heteroromantic bisexual for different reasons, arguing that the science of attraction is too complex to compartmentalize into "romantic" and "sexual." Aleta Baldwin, assistant professor of public health with California State University at Stanislaus, argues that sexual orientation and romantic orientation cannot necessarily be decoupled, and rather questions the concept of an "orientation.""Rather than begin from the idea that there is a disconnect between sexual and romantic orientations, I would question the conflation of sexual attraction, sexual behavior and romantic attraction into one concept: orientation," Baldwin told .
Nate*, 25, said that "a notable portion of (cis) women I have been with and around seem to harbor a mistrust regarding bisexual men for fear that they could just be closeted and gay...
I’m a n***a from Compton, I don’t dislike black people, I prefer to live here and be around POC bc I love black people, I’m just not attracted to black boys. “I still love them and want them to do well in life, we just won’t date.
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"I don't like when all the eyes are on me."Claire*, 26, who is in a long-term heterosexual relationship and identifies as a heteroromantic bisexual, said that her homophobic aunt panicked and told other members of her family when she saw that Claire changed her sexual orientation on Facebook to "interested in men and women." So she quickly changed it back to "interested in men.".
"I don't consider it a central part of my identity by any means, so it's not that big a deal, but every once in a while I will be like, ' Oh, I wish they knew about this,' because they know literally everything else about me.
A fair amount of women lose interest in me upon learning my sexuality."Steve*, 30, self-identifies as a heteroromantic bisexual but said he prefers to let people assume he's purely heterosexual "for convenience's sake." "For one thing, if the people where I worked knew I was bi or was even ever curious, I would be mocked mercilessly to the point where I wouldn't be able to do my job," he told Steve, who played football in high school, began to hide his sexuality after a close friend told the team that he had dated a man. I learned later that the coach turned his eye away because he heard I was a 'queer.'"Steve's experience is fairly typical of the experience of bisexual men and the governing our culture's view of bisexuality.