What I have learned over the years helping thousands of people is that every single one of us has issues.
There isn’t a single person on the planet that’s without imperfections.
They’re slaves to the corporate life and the fire simply burns out.
In today’s society, we’re brought up believing that to be successful, we need to get a good job, make the money, start a family, pay the bills, go on vacations and life will be great! This is why it’s not really your fault that things just aren’t working out the way you envisioned them.
Most couples I see on a day to day basic are miserable. You simply need to get good at controlling them so that you can remain in that state of complete confidence in yourself.
The best soldiers on the battlefield are those that never panic.
We all have our own personal story which defines our mindsets and beliefs.
I truly hope a lot of what I am saying here is hitting you deep.
That will make any child a codependent because Codependency at it’s root is also a fear of abandonment – you’re trying your hardest to please other people and you’re dependent on how other’s feel about you.
When things go sour, you can’t help but want to fix the problem, make things right and you can’t take your mind off of it.
The truth is that most people aren’t educated enough to handle these relationships.
So even if you learn how to cover up your neediness, eventually your codependent side will be exposed just like the true character of a BPD – one that has complete lack of emotional control, instability, fear and more.So when someone that you’re in a relationship with pisses you off, leaves you, doesn’t call you back, etc. You start over-analyzing things and can’t figure out what the heck is going on.