Many people, men and women, assume that when someone is divorced they made a lousy spouse. Just because a man is divorced doesn’t mean he’s a bad man.
As a double divorcee, I can tell you that yes, there were times I made a lousy spouse, but there were times I was the perfect wife! My mother always says, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure,” or, more delicately, just because he wasn’t right for one woman, doesn’t mean he isn’t perfect for you!
Remember, ladies, there are three sides to every story: His side, her side, and what really happened.
Don’t judge their relationship; it isn’t yours and therefore, it really isn’t any of your business.
Never badmouth the ex It’s really important not to insult or speak negatively about your date’s ex-partner, especially in front of his children.
Even if he complains about her from time to time, don’t jump on board and don’t remind him of things he may have said in the heat of the moment.
These men are often more mature and less likely to play head games with you (which is exactly why you to date him! However, they also come with, I’ll say it again, a little extra baggage. They’re not going to be the party boy you might be used to, and they’re not always likely to put up with women who need to know their every waking moment. Speaking of going easy on him, you also need to move slowly in this relationship.
Be patient After going through a divorce, it’s unlikely that your date will want to rush into a serious commitment, especially if he has children.
It’s best to take things slowly and not to feel impatient about reaching certain milestones together.
Still, dating a guy who’s been divorced, just like dating a woman who’s been divorced, does come with a certain amount of baggage.
It also comes with a few things you’re going to have to accept without conflict.Here are the 10 most important tips for a smooth relationship with a man who’s been divorced. When visions of your date as the assh*le husband dance through your head, just remember that divorces are rarely any different than the break-up of any other really long relationship; they’re just more expensive.