Greater numbers of people are questioning the institution of marriage every day.
Many are concerned with the direction of current trends. Still others get married on their own terms or only on a “trial basis.” Millions simply live together, unmarried—and ever-greater numbers now cohabitate in “same-sex” partnerships.
Is this not something people just pick up from others and “learn as they go”?
Is there a right and wrong way of dating or, like learning to walk or ride a bike, can people just naturally figure it out as they experience it? All you need do is look at the astonishing array of ill effects in millions of relationships to realize that the dating and courtship practiced today are far off-track.
Even if both were serious, and technically courting from this point (this is often the case today after just Also, because it sounds too “official” and “old-fashioned,” teenagers today rarely even use the term “dating.” The idea of a date—when a man formally asks a woman, for instance, if she would accept an engagement for dinner—is nearly non-existent.
Many simply slip or tumble into dating situations, seemingly not caring how this happens, or even consider in order to successfully date—and be able to eventually move on to the more serious courtship and pursuit of marriage.
If dating and courtship were practiced correctly today, they would form the foundation of a beautiful relationship between a husband and wife as God ordained it.
The answer: because the laws and principles of God are being routinely broken by earth’s billions of human inhabitants. If the effects are bad or rotten, then we should be able to admit that something is wrong, possibly very wrong, with the cause—the ways that people in society practice dating, courtship and even engagement.
But, before we address this, the principle of If you drink too much alcohol, you will become intoxicated. If industry pollutes the environment, the result is contaminated air or water, or even the much-debated problem of global warming.
This could lead to a long list of bad effects: A next-day headache, being arrested, or even an auto accident resulting in injury or death to yourself or others. If countries go to war, the results—the effects—are economic upheaval, disease, famine and general misery for all involved.
A sampling of opinions reveals a variety of definitions, with seemingly no two alike.
In the simplest form, a date is merely a set time agreed upon by two people to engage in an activity.Webster’s states that courting is “to engage in social activities leading to engagement and marriage.” Most would reply, “But isn’t that dating? Courting is a separate but important and intricate part of the process pointing toward and leading to marriage.