Part of the reason why it’s so popular isn’t just because it’s a low-stakes way of starting a conversation but because it almost immediately hooks people’s interest. You will be so ruined that nothing will ever grow where your remains lie. He would return the book later with a simple thank-you note…and the next time they would meet, his rival’s attitude would have changed so profoundly that they would often be close friends for the rest of their lives.While your words may be positive, your closed off body language will be incongruent with what you’re saying and leave people feeling uneasy and confused.Many men, for example, have been creepy by accident because while they may have had the best of intentions, their body language made them seem intimidating or even So the first key is to not give someone – especially women – the full frontal experience; that is, to standing toe to toe with them. Or have you ever wished you could find a way to join a group of cool people and fit in like you’ve always belonged?Ever wish you could be one of those people who can just make friends the way other folks breathe?Facing a stranger square on can feel intimidating; it can come across as though you’re trying to box them in.
Our brains don’t like the tension; we prefer to at least So by asking a stranger for their help – getting some advice to settle a disagreement, wanting to know where they got those boots, what they think about the brand of phone they’re using – we’re asking them to do something nice for us. Another key psychological component to building rapport with someone is to remember that we instinctively like people who like . So one of the easiest ways to indicate that we like someone is to let them know we think they’re fascinating and that they have a lot to offer.
for this beyond everyone being profoundly self-involved: as it turns out, talking about ourselves literally makes us feel good.
Scientists have found that talking about ourselves activates the same pleasure centers of the brain that are associated with food and money.
Tilting your chin down ever so slightly gives a feeling of being equal and approachable.
Similarly, a slight tilt to the side communicates friendliness and gives the impression that you like them.
I can’t stress enough how important non-verbal communication is when it comes to making a positive connection with somebody.