I chose not to tell her that I was being a friend and only a friend to and old girlfriend..dumby me lied to her about the things I was doing when we first met.A girl I was seeing off and on for sex mainly contacted me about two weeks prior to me meeting my current girlfriend..and the x were broke up when she contacted me no sex..told me her mother was dying of terminal cancer having gone through this ordeal my self I could very much relate to her pain.
I didn’t say anything for a couple of days because I was in shock and wanted to be calm when I discussed it with him. But then he sent me an odd text saying he loves me. Once you tell him how you discovered the information he’ll immediately shut down and feel that you violated the trust of your relationship. However, even though you “accidentally” discovered the information, now that you have it, it trumps any argument he can raise. You aren't a bad guy, I hope you didn't tell her that 'her kind' find 'guys like you'. With abused partners you have to be very sensitive to their needs.Both my ex-fiancee & my wife have had their share of abuse.Counselling can help, both couples counselling and counselling for your GF.
For your GF getting into a support group for survivors of DV will help her immensely.They have a tendency of lashing out at the closest people to them. You'll also have to endure the possibility of your gf being in a depression.