Know what you want from a relationship before dating an older man.
Depending on the age of your older guy, he may have grown up in an entirely different decade than you did.
If a lot of your guy’s friends are like him—young and single—going out to bars until 4 a.m.
Sure, you’ll have dinner dates, but also be ready for, say, a 10-mile hike one weekend followed by a concert the next.“They don’t want to miss out on being part of their group, with whom they glean their identity.”Although you may be ready to walk down the aisle, it can be hard to get a younger man to put a ring on it.“In some cases, a younger guy is developmentally in a different place,” says psychotherapist Robi Ludwig.He could have been previously married, and now he is hesitant to pursue a serious relationship.
Or, even if he is open to marriage, he may already have children and not be interested in having more.Dating someone younger—whether you’re two or three years his senior or are talking cougar territory—certainly can work, but being an “older woman” in a relationship does tend to come with certain perks and downfalls.