Now, I see clearly how juvenile that was and how it was keeping us in a parent-child dependency rather than allowing us to function as two grown adults.I also used to think that love had to be a little messy to keep it exciting.I’ve dated my fair share of men who were actually boys trapped emotionally in their younger years.Although the warning signs were there from the outset, I chose to be blind to them and continue dating them anyway. In the next few days...we'll look at a few helps on teen dating... ) Let me just share this little bit of advice with you again... Notice this covers everything not just teen dating... Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty. In fact the passage doesn't say anything at all about marriage. Don't get me wrong..long as you live with your parents... Verse two isn't just for children...it's for everybody..adults. When Paul wrote this, he was quoting from the Ten Commandments. He's put your parents where they are as your...parents! But there are definitely relationship principles in the Bible that can help us figure out what's right and wrong in this messed up world. for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. That verse is age specific about "children" obeying their parents. When that happens...verse one changes in application to Ephesians 6:2. That doesn't mean they'll always be right..then you need to leave that up to God. This makes the experience one that can be very difficult to step away from. Day-to-day changes may not be very noticeable but when we look back over time the changes are far more obvious.
But as a teen, should you completely lose dating and find other "safer" options? The best and only place to go for good advice about teen dating is the Truth found in the Bible, the Word of God. or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? Hurrying things won't help your dating relationship. And it seems to have the worst consequences in teen dating relationships. Sure it was in a different time..what if dinosaurs were still walking the earth when your parents were dating (just kidding! And they know more than you..matter what you think! If you've made a decision for Christ..should live for Him. You need to listen to His voice in all walks of life...including teen dating. A flurry of other books dealing with teen dating came out a short time later. So...dating, if done to God's satisfaction, can be a relationship that not only honors God but also helps you draw close to Him through the person you're dating. No book, TV show or magazine will give you the truth regarding teen dating. You don't need the problems of a close relationship right now. Don't get sloppy in your dating relationship by going too fast. Going too slow more than likely won't hurt your dating life. Don't forget what Proverbs 19:2 said..one who hastens (that is goes too fast) will ultimately find himself (or herself) wading waist-deep in sinful sludge. Let's look at a few that will help us untangle this teen dating thing... Another way to put it would be..."You hang out with spiritual losers..become A SPIRITUAL LOSER." This is not to say we shouldn't have casual contact with unbelievers. Working with young people for the last decade, I've seen this play out a lot. Teen starts dating girl/guy of questionable character. Teen is confronted by the spiritual leader in his/her life (such as pastor, youth group leader..get the picture.) 3. That counts more than outward appearance in relationships... You're only deceiving yourself if you do anything else. And they were teenagers in teen dating relationships at one time. What you do with the life God has given you....that's the gift you give back to Him. Read...study...apply God's Word to your life...especially when it comes to teen dating. ) The storm of outrage against dating produced a book that encouraged teens to "kiss" teen dating goodbye and go with another option. God doesn't look down on relationships that honor and glorify Him. "Haste makes waste." I doubt the person who said this had dating in mind..it definitely applies. But I will tell you there are a few verses in there that come very close to saying that about teen dating! Hanging around with bad company will harm us spiritually. Teen declares he/she can "change" that person or lead them to Christ or... But rememer the verse above..doesn't work that way. If their character is flawed, they're spiritually ugly and weak. Date Christians who have proven their Christian character. The truth is...they've done a whole lot more living than you have. Don't feed your soul only once or twice a week at church... I didn’t need to depend on anyone else for love, happiness or anything else.
I had been involved in intense dynamics whereby we foolishly believed at the time that if our relationship ended, our whole worlds would crumble with it. If you're a guy..a Christian girl who you know has God's will in view. It's your spiritual meals that keep your soul alive.