Before continuing with this article, please review the preamble included at the beginning of this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 5: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship » My last article, "Biblical Dating: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship," sought to apply some of the principles we've discussed in this series to the early stages of a dating relationship.We talked about how to establish intentions for the early stages, appropriate topics of conversation, types of dates and level of emotional investment.” The last thing a woman needs is her man to minimize what has upset her.Allow her to talk it out, vent and feel that you are on her side. So what’s the best advice on relationships when it comes to building emotional intimacy with your woman?Rather than giving solutions, a man can be most successful if he provides increased understanding and empathy.A woman needs to feel that she is not being judged or rejected for not being as loving. ” (Warning: A less than thoughtful response may be lethal) You may notice that there are times when a woman feels as if she is giving more than she is receiving. Be careful not to judge her or condemn her for being unreasonable and again, do NOT try to talk her out of her feelings.
Clarity and intentions should be established when things move from "testing the waters" to "yeah, the water's fine." Don't assume that because you agreed to start dating or courting (presumably with the intention to determine whether marriage was the right thing) you (or your partner) will "just know" when things begin to progress. Maybe, but being deliberate and clear about where the relationship is need not suck all the fun, spontaneity and feeling out of the whole affair.The idea in all of that was not to establish a level of emotional (or certainly physical) intimacy that would imply marriage (defrauding one another), and result in a emotional divorce if things don't work out.Our goal in dating as Christians is to save marital levels of interaction for marriage itself; to care well for the other person's soul, to be different from the world and so to bring glory to God.Learn to recognize and respond to her emotions as they rise and fall.
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