There are essentially an infinite number of categories of things that you and your partner could potentially include in your relationship contract.
Some of the most common things that my clients have prioritized in their contract are:– Details regarding date nights (when they happen, how often they happen, what they should frequently consist of, who plans them, the balance between stay-at-home date nights vs.
every 1-4 weeks) that it becomes something that you track neurotically and obsess over.
If you and your partner revisit and revise your relationship contract a couple of times per year, you (and your relationship) will be in good shape. Send this article to your significant other, tell them, “This sounds fun! ” and start brainstorming out your relationship contract together.
go-out-for-something-special date nights, etc.)– Details regarding their relational balance of independence vs.
intimacy (how much alone time they will prioritize, how often they will spend time with their friends outside of the relationship, how often they will take separate vacations)As a rule of thumb, I recommend that your relationship contract is more of a set of intentions and guidelines than it is an iron-clad set of rules that must be abided by 100% of the time.
By getting it all out on the table early on in your relationship, you’ll be able to avoid fights, frustrations, and unnecessary internalized resentments because of the honesty that you brought to the process of creating your relationship contract.
I really can’t imagine anything more romantic than intentionally sitting down with the person you love and having an extended conversation about what it means to them to be loved.
Co-creating your relationship contract with your partner will give you both the opportunity to be 100% transparent and honest about what is important to you in your relationship.Whether you’re discussing topics that are usually relationship land mines (like your ideas around sex, money, children, religion, etc.), or talking about how often you want to have a date night, writing up your relationship contract will be an essential step towards finding clarity and alignment in your mutual desires.