If you’re ‘lucky’ no one will come up to you in the street and ask “why are you dating him? The closer the friend, the more you tend to dislike their choice of a partner.Expect the roles to be reversed on you, except this time, your friends and family have a whole new way to judge your partner – race, religion, culture, and cultural beliefs. In the course of your AMWF relationship, you will run across old friends and new acquaintances who want to ‘save you from ignoring this obvious problem.’ Most of them mean well. But people’s words hurt a lot more than they realize. While it would be foolish to ignore the impact Japanese culture will have on my relationship, our foreign cultures are not the determining factor on whether we can have a successful marriage.The other two books I know of AMWF relationships are: More than anything, it is a collection of stories from eight foreign women who are married (or were married) to Japanese men.It shows an honest look at what AMWF relationships look like, ten to twenty years after the couple first says “I do.” Our relationship is fantastic, frustrating, and full of fun.” On that same tangent, people think that interracial relationships don’t attract stares, criticism, or whispers.
It represents a small minority of interracial couples, most American, Australian, and European women dating Korean, Japanese, and Chinese men.
However, most of it is defined by the fact that I am white and he is Asian.
My relationship (like any relationship) is a compromise between the good, the bad, and the ugly.
And it is a little bit scary trying to live day by day. The hardest part of an intercultural relationship is deciding when to compromise, when to fight, and when to draw the line. What are you supposed to do if your partner is completely opposed to your religion?
Sure, this week I think it is a bit silly (but adorable) that Ryosuke makes me wipe my feet off with wet wipes before climbing into bed (even if I have been wearing slippers all day). He likes the fact I am ambitious and want to have a solid career, but what about in five years, when his family is pressuring me to quit my job to have (and take care of) kids? What if he thinks you should quit your job after marriage to become a housewife?
During race discussions at my school, most of the white women I talk to say things like “I’ve never seen racism, so I don’t think it still exists” or “racism isn’t real – they are just imagining it!