The Native American dating customs get a bit more complicated if the girl does not choose to blow out the light.
If she was interested, she used the meat to cook for him and if not, she left the food sitting outside.
Native American tribes also used the court flute as a ritual.
The man would play this flute near his potential love interest's home.
After the mothers have been spoken to the young man is told he is allowed to come to the lodge.
Usually he waits until everyone is sleeping and he makes a light and finds the girl he wants.
This part of the Native American dating custom is usually done with a special flute called a Courting flute.