In online forums and gaming – where many people meet their partners – how we express ourselves and our personality acts as the initial attractors.
Similarly, we try to divine as much of that information as possible from the dating profile photo and username even before we start in on the dating profile.
You also have to consider where and how to present your best self.
If you’re the sort of person who’s clever and witty, then you want to look more towards a site like OKCupid that lets you display your humor like the tail of an Oscar Wilde-loving peacock.
Telling somebody you’re adventurous is similarly unhelpful.
Better to talk about your recent trip to Ankor Wat or – even better – have a photo of you in front of Ta Prohm.
Many people treat online dating as though they were talking to somebody in a bar.
If your brand of humor trends to the physical or being silly, then post that picture of you as the Stay-Puft Marshmallow Man from last Halloween or doing something wacky.
To start with, you have to rethink the way that you present yourself.
Studies show that between 75% to 93% of communication is non-verbal.
I’m going to tell you something that you already know: dating is a frustrating process of trial and error.
For a lot of people, it’s a seemingly never-ending dance of missed connections, nights you’ll never get back again and wondering just what’s wrong with you and why everybody else seems to have it so much easier. In fact, for many people, online dating is such a trial that they give up early on.You have to treat your dating profile as an advertisement; you are, after all, selling yourself to others.