What a speech."Listen," New York–based relationship expert and author April Masini tells Bustle. "Too many people get swept up in romance and excitement, and they forget to listen and learn about the person they’re dreaming about and fantasizing a life together," Masini says."If he says he’s got seven kids, and you’ve sworn off them, reconsider the whirlwind romance.
Of course, it's not that fun to talk about all of the things you don't want when you're trying to dive headfirst into something that feels amazing, but it's best to get anything that could gum up the works later off your chest immediately. "You never want to have kids, you are a virgin, you don't ever want to be married, you are not close with your family," Martinez says. And it's not fair if you wait until much later to bring them up.
The false start can look many ways, but one thing it doesn't do is make things go better as time goes on.