Most of us believe that when we feel our spouse slipping away from us, we should merge more, get as close as we can, and do more 'to make the marriage work."The thought of creating distance at such a time instills a great deal of fear of losing control of your spouse and your relationship.This option is especially challenging if the bond between the two of you has been weakened by a betrayed trust.And the next thing i know one morning in route to work, trying to buy breakfast with my check card and it did not work.I get to work and the bank account is empty, try to call the house, no answer, so i leave work to find all my clothes on the front porch, along with alot of other stuff.My husband and I have been married for 3 1/2 years and have been struggling with each other for several months.He tried to put it on me that maybe he should move out.
We started to make preparations for it along with sitting down with the five kids, with the counselor.I told him if he thinks it will help him figure things out.I don't like the idea of being separated because we have been distant for so long and not connected.I think just taking a vacation from one another sometimes makes you realize that pastures are not greener on the other side of the fence.
We can get into the habit of taking each other for granite that is why it is so important to appreciate the little things that a couple does for each other.
I feel like this is a path to divorce when I would like it to be for us to become closer and more connected. We have a daughter too which worries me alot how she can handle this.