The longer I go without sex, the more build-up there is: the more anxiety and curiosity, fear and desire, anticipation and uncertainty.
Basically, what was once just another bit of my identity has, over 26 years, become a defining element of who I am, whether I like it or not. (At least when it’s good.) I cannot wait to have sex someday.
Another had such low self-esteem he wouldn’t make a move until just before he passed out.
The most serious contender waited until I was so smitten with him that I would break plans, skip class, call in sick — whatever — to drive hours to visit him, and then dumped me, saying it “just wasn’t a good time for him.” Another reason sex didn’t factor into my coming-of-age years is that I’m a Christian.
(This usually involves the showing off of foreplay moves, tales of the extreme pleasures I’ve been missing and/or purring that they don’t mind waiting — unless it’s going to be, like, two years, in which case they’re not so sure.) Some bail immediately.
Some fake acceptance — and then bail a few dates later.
She was shockingly cool about it (which is saying something: my mom was the Mom of all Moms; the woman all my friends feared, revered and secretly worshiped) and let the party play out until everyone had gone home.
Then all hell broke loose — at least that’s how it seemed to my eighth-grade, never-been-kissed self.
What’s more, I’m an obnoxiously picky person who avoids letting go of control, being vulnerable and making mistakes at all costs — a by-the-book Type-A perfectionist.Let me explain: Every guy reacts differently to the No Sex bomb.Some play it cool while calculating how to coerce me into changing my mind.For most of my junior high and high school years, I played the role of the friend — the token girl in a group of boys who were more interested in taking my advice for how to ask a girl to prom than taking me to prom.
And given the choice between having just one boy with whom to spend all my time or a group of boys, friends trumped boyfriend.
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