You’ll lose your impact on him and risk boring him.
What usually happens is that a woman will send something a little dirty in a text, and she gets a that because men have such sexually driven minds, that we must really like raunchy talk.
You only need to plant the suggestion now and again to get him fantasizing about you. You’ve just reassured him that he’s not going to be left hanging forever.
Every so often, a well placed tease text is fine to start some “naughty talk.” The key is to give him something fun and funny, without being about the “just kidding” part. Of course this will leave him deliciously tempted, and wondering what “his” will be – and when he gets it. Geez, I’m getting excited just writing this, so I’m sure it’s going to work on him.
We just can’t help it – we men are visual creatures, and we’d really like to get a gander at “the goods.” .
As I wrote earlier this year in an essay on the ethics of the fadeaway, I’d rather a guy text me "hi im done w/ u, boning my ex now" than inexplicably stop responding to all of my totally adorable conversation starters and late-night propositions.